I’m not sure how to explain the amount of work I put into my days, but I saw just how taxing it is when my best friend Sarah was in town and stayed with us for a few days. Sarah’s a runner, training for her second marathon. At the end of the day when my kiddos were in bed (but not asleep yet!), Sarah collapsed on the couch and asked how I do it all the time.

A marathon runner, folks. Someone please explain how I’m hanging onto the last of my pregnancy weight!

Parents of newborns live in survival mode. We did, too, when our kids were in the neverending newborn stage for preemies. Then survival mode turned into just-get-the-shit-done mode. The sleep deprivation settled into a new normal, and while I wasn’t a basket case, I still called my days a success when my kids were taken care of despite me still in last night’s pajamas and unbrushed hair at the end of the day.

I hear some moms of multiples call it the two-year fog.

Finally, I feel like the fog is lifting. Toby, Eleanor and Callista will turn 2 years old this month, and it feels like life is getting more normal. I get up earlier than them most days and shower, get dressed, do my hair and think about breakfast without interruption. It’s about that time that they wake, so I still have a goal I’m working toward. I even bought new makeup and have a Christmas wishlist that caters to the idea of looking good, not just like I am surviving.

Someday, I’ll add exercise back into the mix, but I can’t wrap my head around working more when I honestly work toward getting the chance to relax while awake instead of only resting when it’s time for bed.

You really never know how much you’ve been through or how difficult it was or how exhausting things are until you’re over the hump.

Or when a marathon runner crashes on your couch and looks at you in awe.

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5 Responses to Two-year fog

  1. Jennifer says:

    Oh wow…I sorta know what you mean. Emma is only 7 months old though and hubby takes care of her now when I’m at work. I definitely say, how can I work out? I can’t in the AM…I go to work way too early and when I get home, he goes to do his work.

  2. Amy says:

    I hear you, I’ve had a four year fog, as my second set of twins are 19 months, and my first set just turned four.

  3. Dee says:

    2 year fog? That means I only have 1 year and 5 months to go!! LOL You ARE amazing.

  4. Lindsey says:

    I think I had a 3 1/2 year haze with OJ….3D was like a 7 month haze. He was/is an easy baby. He’ll be two in January and I haven’t had any serious drama with him in almost a year lol

  5. laura says:

    Hey Jenny – it’s Chuck’s wife – I just friended you on FB – I’m wondering if i can pick your brain on a few things before the twins arrive!

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